The entangling threads of my nightmare still linger, whispers at the edge of my hearing, tickles against my face, my throat, a lingering feel of inescapable realities that lead me to the edge of that land, to this area where I stand, halfway in between. My feet step, my face looks out at the sunny day, my pets snuffle and scurry between my legs, but still my heart races in urgent fear, and the eyes from the dreamscape follow me, felt in the little raised hairs against my neck. From somewhere behind me the dream still reaches through, darkening the corners of the sky, lurking in the corners of my room, of my mind.
A few weeks ago I got a geranium, a bitty little thing, with just a couple blooms on it–one of the sadder from the sales lot, really–but gads of buds dotted the plant, with the promise of exploding into a riot of petals that now has become a reality. I placed my dreams in the flowers hands, it’s purpose a sort of dream catcher, a safety valve between myself and the haunting of my overactive nights. And so far, the little bugger has done a pretty decent job of keeping the worst at bay.
Why geraniums, you ask? Why on earth would this science brained geek-girl do such a thing as to place her dreams in trust to a funny little plants, the very same plant that once was a major decorative feature of her grandmothers back porch? Good question. It all goes back to dreams, in my usual way of convoluted logic.
In years gone past, in the midst of wondering over whether or not I was losing my mind, while writing perhaps the ugliest of my ugly fiction for an even more vile customer, I dreamed of geraniums. While feeling my body rot from within as I faced cervical cancer, to feeling my mind play victim to the sewer of violence that I was creating from this ugly customers psyche and desires, I reached a point where the nightmares were so extreme, so vivid, they pushed through the barrier between wake and sleep, leaving me unsure of which horrors were real, which I created, and what was real.
Oh, I knew very well what events were real or not; I was not hallucinating, mind you. Well, not yet anyhow. It was the feel, the residue, the eyes pressing into me from a corner of nightmare land, lurking, laying in wait for my return, preying upon my sense of safety, my ownership of my own mind and emotions. Unlike the usual dissipating of powers that occurs after nightmares, as reality crunches them under sunshine, and the memory of the events and the terror once felt fade into ’just a dream’, these nightmares lost no power through time, space, and light. The physical pains I suffered in these dreams, during this period, night after night after night, would feel sore and bruised in the very light of day. A piece of hell came back with me every time I awoke.
This has happened off and on throughout my life, but at that time, it was an endless event: wake, sleep, wake, sleep, one bled into another into each other. What I wrote was as horrible as what I dreamed; what I feared in reality was as terrifying as what dogged my heels in nightmare land. At that moment in my life, there was no escape, as each fed into the other, and little by little I felt my sanity buckle under the pressure of fear, felt my mind fray and scatter. Under this assault without end, I began to feel that it was becoming one endless event, that no longer needed to fit logic. What use is logic in the realm of fear, when reality has become a tenuous thread at best?
I tried to not sleep for a time; that was a useless attempt. I tried to sleep all the time, thinking that my fears and the feeling of rotting from within were bleeding into the darkness, where they were set free to torment my mind in a place where I had no control. The idea of my body diseased from cancer, the sense of my mind being swallowed in the rotting cesspool of this customer’s desires, these were the daylight terrors. The idea was that if I could escape the thoughts and worries and input that filled my daylight world, perhaps I could hope to catch a few dreamless, lovely hours of true escape in sleep. That also failed.
At that time, we lived in a home on Maui, built way up on the sides of the volcano, in the midst of lava fields, in a forgotten area that once was the village of Kanaio, where all spiritual workers and healers from the ancient Hawaiian and Polynesian nations were sent to learn and study, live and grow. Our home sat in the ruins of this village, the old stone walls and cistern still stood, the graves of ancient healers and the royalty still lie in the lava tubes around the home.
All native priests and priestesses were sent to live there in times now mostly forgotten, to refine their arts, many sent from early childhood. The spiritual strength of this area could be felt within, could be experienced in the ancient whispers carried on the howling wind. There are no words that will express the feel of magic in this landscape. This is the real magic of nature, of energy; this sort of magic is neither benign nor malignant, not friend nor foe. As nature is, it simply exists. It holds within it both creation and destruction, without partiality.
If I had to quantify it, I would call such places as the birthing seat of universes, as the raw core of energies expressed and prima materia living in every cell. This is a place where Darwin could wonder over the constant surprises of evolution and still keep a sense of glee at all that science has not yet quantified into words or numbers, of all that may make people reach to the heavens towards the idea of gods. A land where ideas and emotions were as solid as the miles of lava rock under your feet.
After yet another day, week, month, of these never ending nightmares, in the midst of an especially violent section of the story, my mind deep in the customers ugliness and my own fears, I snapped. As I stood in the kitchen, not yet really awake, but no longer asleep, stuck by now in this half-there state and truly exhausted, the lines between the two states of being faded.
As I watched, blood dripped across the counters, spilled over the floor, even crept up the walls. Not down: up! As I watched, I knew even then the difference between what came from my haunting dreams, and where sat the world of ‘awake‘. Logic of reality argued with what I was experiencing.
The blood was as a shadow, it lacked substance. I could see the untouched solid kitchen as if through a screen of the nightmare vision. My mind fought and argued with itself, seeing everything darken, watching it all swallowed by this blood, hearing the roar of what seemed a river of blood in the background somewhere, my heart hammering at my ribs. I collapsed on the floor in sobs, rubbing hard at my eyes, trying to make it stop, make it go away. I was just as afraid of opening my eyes as I was closing them. I knew that all sat normal in my kitchen, I was not insane, I knew the image of blood and the bare whisper of screams from what sounded like a land far away came only from my tormented mind. I slid to the floor and sobbed, unable to go on, unable to escape the claws of the nightmares and the dreads of realities. They had become one entity.
I gave up and lay in bed until exhaustion finally led me back into sleep. And then I dreamed of geraniums.
I was back in the darkened alleys and abandoned buildings of nightmare land, but scattered amongst the dead and ruined scene were these geraniums, growing in the oddest of places: out the tops of rusted car hoods, blooming in the middle of glass littered asphalt. I was alone in the dreamscape, all alone–no eyes watched from hidden corners beyond my sight. Each time I saw a geranium, –pink, white, red, it mattered not,– I knew in the dream that the way I walked was safe. I traipsed the dangerous terrain with a growing sense of strength and security, as the flowers and fat leaves marked a safe path for me.
I took me several hours after that nap to scrape the courage and willpower up to get back to writing. The last thing on earth I wanted to do was continue with the story. It was bleeding, literally, into my everyday, it was seeping and creeping and eating at my peace of mind. But I finally did–I had deadlines, I needed the pay, I had bills past due. I could see no way to walk away. I decided I would simply spend the rest of the day editing the work of the weeks before on this horrid novella.
As I read, I started to realize that I had written the word “geranium” several times in the story. It was completely out of place; trust me, the story has not a single flower to be found in it. This was not a day’s event: I had unknowingly stuck this word into the oddest sentences–it made zero sense. I had apparently been doing this for days, I have no idea how many.
That night, as I lay down and sleep started reaching to me, I pictured the geraniums from my grandma’s porch. A small residue of the childhood safety that we lose before age 10 crept inside me. I had no dreams that night.
Needless to say, perhaps, this was the very last story I wrote for that customer, or for any customer. I would later reclaim my words as only my own to use, from my self and being and heart, and find another way to try and pay the bills. After that story, I have written only that which comes from within me, to this day. Never again will I brave the darkness of another’s ugly desires. The cost is far too steep.
For a few months after that, when nightmares would come, I would look around me in my dreams, until I found it: the geranium. It wasn’t always there, and I didn’t always have the mental self-control to see or look for it–lets face it, when you are in full flight from the boogeyman in a bad dream, thinking to look for a geranium isn’t generally a first thought.
As time went on, I lost the secret of the geranium, only very rarely remembering what it had done for me.
Nightmares are one of my personal curses. For some reason I have been chased through dreams for most of life, hounded, harried, beaten and bruised. Whatever you would never want to experience in the waking world, my dreamscape provided in spades.
Skipping the long story, a friend recently suggested I buy a flowering plant and “keep it alive” as part of a deeper delving into reiki, tai chi, breathing and visualization exercises all aimed at improving health, inducing greater melatonin and serotonin production, increasing oxygen absorption, keeping immune functions in great shape, keeping white blood counts pumping, dealing with stress to minimize health impacts, and much more. So of course my first thought is a geranium, as the entire ‘geranium‘ experience of the past came rushing back to me. When you dream like I dream, any straw you can reach for in hope will do just fine.
Without saying a word about it, I secretly assigned this little over-stuffed pot of healthy red flowers and bright green leaves the job of standing guard between me and my dreams. I never spoke the intent–this entry is the first admission ever that I may have pinned such a silly seeming hope onto a simple flower. It’s just not the sort of thing I would normally do, let alone admit to doing; me who sees magic and religions as mere human attempts and failures to quantify a scientific state of being, of laws and existence, that we simply are not advanced enough to understand or label yet.
Each morning when I awaken, I sit by this geranium and count its new blooms, watching it grow so fast and so well it seems almost to have fed on my un-dreamed nightmares that it swallowed whole. It’s near to busting out of it’s little pot.
Do I believe that a pot of flowers can protect me from my mind’s own demons? No. But I do believe in the mind’s ability to incorporate such ideas into functional tools for self-management. I do believe in our ability to use ideas and concepts in a much deeper and applicable way that has nothing to with logic and everything to do with emotions and what some may call the spiritual self. The scientific realities matter not a bit when one is attempting to battle a dreamscape, after all. Good luck convincing yourself that the dogs eating at your flesh while you dream are not real while in the middle of the terror.
So I am raising a guardian geranium. It makes as much sense as anything can when dealing with a recalcitrant subconscious.
And yes, since I got the geranium I have had far less nightmares than my usual quota. Those that I have had don’t impact so greatly, they lack the power to bleed into the daylight, lack the force to follow me into the waking world. If it’s just a silly mental panacea that in reality is nothing more than me screwing with my own head, well, I’m just fine with it. I’m just fine with anything that has me getting some blissful blank sleep on a semi-regular basis.
But last night’s was a doozie, I’ll tell ya. And not a geranium was in sight.
Most of it I don’t even remember: tendrils and twisting vines, hairs, plastics and metals and me trapped beneath this swirling pile, the pressure mounting, my heart drumming, dirt falling into my face. The world grew further from me, and further still, and soon I saw only a piece of sky in a rectangle above, the edges loose, a rough cut rectangle, blades of grass and chunks of earth along it’s edges, the sound of voices from above as I dropped lower and lower. It was the worm, and a set of toes, as the roots from a neighboring tree reached for me, grabbed at an arm, that made me suddenly aware that I was inside a grave.
I felt the same paralysis that comes over me during a seizure, the same desire and physical push to move without the ability to do so that I experience with the muscles that simply don’t work no matter how hard I try, that have been ‘switched off’ thanks to the brain tumor. The feel of paralysis is indeed its own sensation; it is not the ‘lack’ of sensation.
I lay in that grave, watching the world grow further from me, the sky narrowing in it’s little rectangle, the sun reaching towards me less and less, as I slowly slid toward a darkness deeper than anything I have ever seen. The cold ground was beneath my back as I stared helpless at the sky, and even in the dream I felt the cold creeping inside of me, grabbing onto my sides, sinking into me deeply. I pictured this cold of death even while in the dream, as reached into me, colder, colder, colder. The tendrils of weeds, of roots, wound about me, snaked about my throat, prodded at my eyes.
I tried to call out, but my voice was as paralyzed as my body, frozen and locked inside. I could feel the earth beneath my back moving ever so slightly as the bugs that would soon come to clean my bones started to move in anticipation of a new meal. I would try to breath, pulled as hard as I could with lungs and diaphragm to draw in air, but none would come. I was panicked that I could not breathe, even as I was aware I didn’t need to. My slack lips held small crumbs of moist soil which I could taste.
I could hear friends and family as if from far away, knew they were up on the grass, around this grave in which I lay. The claustrophobia was intense. The sense of paralysis was terrifying, the inevitability of what would be next had me trapped in my body in a panic that tore my mind to shreds. I sobbed in my sleep, knowing the shovels of dirt were about to fall across me and there was nothing I could do to stop it. And the tears wet my cheek, dripped across these roots and vines, made mud against my ears. The eyes of an unknown watcher, a spectator, in my mind Death as an entity, or perhaps no creature so powerful, a smaller guardian, a curious spirit that feeds off fear, bored into me.
I was still sobbing as I awoke.
The eyes I still feel as I type; the sensation persists that if I turn around quick enough, I may catch sight of this onlooker with too much morbid interest in my nightmares.
I think I need more geraniums. And maybe a fat bottle of wine.
NP